Be Kinder

One of the most important attitudes to bring to your mindfulness is kindness. You can be more attentive, present and compassionate but the experience of it can be cold and hard, or you can apply some kindness to it to make it more kind, warm, caring and gentle. So by adding kindness to your experiences you can make any moment whether it’s positive, negative or neutral just a little bit better.

So you’re now wondering what all this actually means and how you can do this. Try looking away from this book for a couple of minutes and keep your focus on just one thing that you can see. Pay attention to it and bring a sense of affection to the way you are looking at it in the same way that you would look into a small childs eyes.


You could try this next time that you eat, in fact try it each time you eat. When the food arrives and before you dive in just take a few moments to notice the smell of the food in the same way you would notice your favourite perfume or after shave. As you take each bite and chew, notice and savour the different tastes in your mouth and remember how lucky you are to have food that can be enjoyed. Make sure you you have chewed and savoured everything in your mouth before have you next helping.

Or as you walk around as part of your day and notice other people, in your head wish them some kindness. Think to yourself “I hope you can be happy” and try to make it come from the heart.

Or try listening to your own negative thoughts with a sense of kindness. Just listen to those thoughts like you would if you were listening to a close friend with some understanding and compassion.

You have unlimited kindness within you so give it away either to others or to yourself, preferably both. You will notice an effect too, the kinder you are and feel, the more people will be kind to you too. Try it and see for yourself.

John Burley

John Burley lives in Hertfordshire in the United Kingdom and is the author of Mindfulness for the Mindless due for publication on 2nd April 2018. He is also the director of a software development company producing software solutions to mainly the gaming industry. He blogs about mindfulness at which has a growing following both on the blog itself, the accompanying Android app and on social media too.

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