Meditation is possibly the most difficult element of mindfulness to get your head around. I’m sure you have lots thoughts about how you don’t have enough time to do it and how it’s a bit to hippy and possibly not for you. It doesn’t need to take long and the benefits you gain far out way any time spent meditating.
A common misconception is that meditating is the same as relaxing. It is not, meditating is relaxing but just relaxing does not have the same benefits as meditating. Unlike meditation relaxing does not control your mind from having the thoughts it wants to have. Often when you are just relaxing because your mind is not consumed with an activity that keeps it mindful, relaxing can be a time when you are less in control of your mind because control is relaxed too. Of course we all need to relax but do not believe relaxing is the same as mediation, in fact, relaxing is closer to being the opposite to meditating in terms of helping control your thoughts.
Meditating will help you reach an improved state of self awareness and when practiced regularly also has many other proven benefits too, like improving memory and relief of the some less severe symptoms of anxiety and depression.
HOLDING ONTO ANGER
IS LIKE DRINKING POISON
AND EXPECTING THE OTHER
PERSON TO DIE.
The main benefit of Meditation is improving your self awareness generally through regular meditation it will become a lot easier to control your reactions and feelings.
We all experience positive and negative emotions from time to time like anger, sadness, happiness, excitement to name just a few. The key is to observe them and not judge yourself for having such emotions and feelings. By being more self aware and observing your emotions more, you will learn what each emotion feels like for you and be able to categorise them appropriately.
PEOPLE HAVE A HARD TIME
LETTING GO OF THEIR SUFFERING.
OUT OF FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN,
THEY PREFER SUFFERING
THAT IS FAMILIAR.
THICH NHAT HANH
By understanding which emotions you are experiencing you will be able to realise that emotions pass relatively quickly if they are just observed, acknowledged and then accepted. Once you’ve accepted that the emotion you are feeling is perfectly reasonable for the circumstances you find yourself in in the present moment you can just let it go instead of reacting. Once that emotion has passed you can choose an appropriate response if one is warranted at all.