Stress can be caused by any number of issues from work to health problems but it can seriously impact your relationships in a negative way. Often the cause of the stress is from outside of the relationship and has the effect of pushing you further apart within the relationship. Stress also has another side effect, when we are stressed, for whatever reason, we feel less secure in our relationships as a result.
Stress can make us more irritable and less tolerant of small things that wouldn’t normally worry us. Stress has an impact on our communication skills making us less able to converse in a positive manner. Stress also negatively affects how you perceive your relationship with another. Also stress and anxiety have been shown to make us attracted to other people instead of focusing on the one we’re already with. Stress even when caused by life and experiences outside of the relationship can mark the end of the relationship unless accepted and brought under control.
Regular mindfulness practice helps reduce your stress levels by helping you become more balanced and centred. By being less stressed you will be less likely to overreact, less likely to be irritable, more tolerant and positive about all aspects of your life including the relationship. With consistent mindfulness practice you are aiming to approach stressful situations more as a challenge instead of a threat. Stress adds up, the more stressful you tend to feel the more stressful another event or situation then feels, adding to the stressed and anxious feelings you already have.
Is only needs one of you in the relationship to start suffering with stress at work or somewhere else for it to start to cause issues within the relationship. If you are more irritable and less tolerant of your partner, they are likely to start mirroring that behaviour or change their behaviour to avoid conflict and they may also start to become resentful. Likewise though, with just one of you practicing mindfulness each day the benefits will be felt by both too. As the person suffering with the stress starts to feel the benefits of mindfulness and feeling less stressful and anxious their partner will relax more too. Even if the person practicing mindfulness is not the one currently suffering with stress they will be more empathetic, more compassionate and more tolerant of the others stress related behaviour and will also likely help reduce the stress levels of their partner.