Almost all of us suffer with anxiety at sometime or another, yet for some it is a constant problem that never seems to go away. When one issue to feel anxious about is past there is another one waiting in the queue or they are feeling anxious about multiple issues at the same time. Feeling anxiety about feeling anxious can also be a problem too.
Having a problem with anxiety can come from seemingly nowhere, can be very debilitating, last for many years and for many suffering with repeated bouts of anxiety it can feel like it will always be in their life’s. Mindfulness combined with self compassion can offer some well needed relief from anxiety and for some it can really be a complete life changer.
There are many factors or combination of factors that can influence whether you will feel anxious in a given moment, including, the current situation you are experiencing, previous life experiences, your genes, caffeine, alcohol and drugs to name a few. Anxiety is an emotion that triggers feelings of worry, tension along with increasing your blood pressure. As with fear it is intended to help protect us from harm but often in the lives we live nowadays it is often a misplaced emotion however real it feels at the time.
Worrying thoughts that tend to fuel themselves with more worrying thoughts creating a negative thought pattern that finally results into feeling anxious. The more you worry the worse the worrying becomes. The main way the mindfulness helps with anxiety is to allow you to first identify that you are having these negative worrying thoughts in the present moment and befriend them. You will learn through being more mindfully present that these thoughts and worries will pass on their own if left alone. You will understand that they are just thoughts and are usually not based in reality or based upon fact.
What mindfulness teaches us is to understand what we are feeling and experiencing in the present moment whether it is good or bad. Instead of avoiding or trying to push worrying and anxious thoughts to the back of your mind, mindfulness encourages us to take some curiosity and apply some self compassion to these thoughts and feelings. If you try avoiding or push away worrying or anxious thoughts they tend to come back stronger giving them more control over your life. Mindfulness helps you look at them with kindness and understanding of what they are, helping you to stop them getting out of control.
Worrying a lot is usually a way of avoiding emotions of fear. Worrying and anxiety could be your way of not dealing with the underlying deeper emotions of fear hence why the worrying continues. Mindfulness will help look closer at what you are actually feeling and experiencing in the moment which will help you identify and understand that feelings and emotions pass so if you let them go they will subside and change to another feeling or emotion if not focused upon.
By using Mindfulness you can develop a healthier understanding of your emotions and feelings, and by looking closer and trying to understand exactly what you are experiencing in the moment instead of trying to avoid them, you can challenge your thoughts and worries and allow the emotions and feelings to pass without causing more anxiety and less struggle.