When you start on your new mindfulness journey it may help to keep you motivated by telling those who are close to you, like family and loved ones. However it is probably better that you do not tell them of the changes they are likely to see in you so you do not build up expectations and so they are pleasantly surprised.
Once you start noticing the differences in yourself and your well-being, you may also feel compelled to share this new found wisdom you have with your friends, family and colleagues and wax on about how it could improve their lives as much it has yours. This is not uncommon and many of us have these urges to spread the word of mindfulness and the benefits it could bring to the many of the people we care about.
However, we’ve all been on the receiving end of a friends lecture about how wonderful their latest fad is and how much better we would be too if we got involved as well. Although coming from a caring place, it’s often done in a way that’s overzealous and pushy manner, and often feels more like a criticism of how we are living our lives already.
So here is another opportunity to be more mindful and show some kindness, compassion and less judgment. Probably the best way to handle these situations is to wait until someone else asks what has prompted the difference they’ve noticed in you. Close friends, family and work colleagues are all likely to pick up your new outlook and demeanor and question you about how it’s come about.
Remember to be kind and be grateful for their interest before making sure that before you launch into how they should get into practicing mindfulness too that are actually wanting to know more. Be attentive to how they are reacting to what you are telling them, they could be just pleased for you that you’ve made some improvements and may not necessarily be that interested how you’ve done it.
It is important to also remember that mindfulness is not a “cure all” and people’s issues and problems are often a lot more complicated than they seem on their surface. Sometimes people will not be interested in what mindfulness has to offer or may not always see the benefits to their own situation by practicing it.
Also remember not to judge them and assume you know how being more mindful could help them. Once they’ve noticed the difference in you and you’ve explained how it’s not that difficult to achieve you can point them to the right resources, like this blog, to help them find out for themselves whether it will be suitable for them after their own research.